On Self-Empowerment

I figured today I would post about something marginally more up-lifting: self-empowerment.
Growing up, self-empowerment was almost a foreign concept to me. I had always told myself that my feelings of empowerment comes from other people – I wouldn’t feel good about my outfit until somebody told me my shirt was cute, I would be convinced my new haircut was ugly until somebody told me it looked nice, and I would think my grades weren’t good enough until my teacher told me I was smart. It was a cycle: a cycle that became extremely harmful and gave other people the upper-hand on my happiness.
The feeling of empowerment that derives from compliments and kindnesses that others do unto you is totally normal and beneficial. However, there comes a point when one can rely too much on others to bring you up, so much that it brings you down.
To be completely honest, it wasn’t until my senior year of high school that I really began to learn how to empower myself. I am still teaching myself. The first step is to recognize that the only person you need approval from is yourself. Okay, and maybe your parents too if you’re under 18, but that’s besides the point. The second step is to recognize that you are the only person in the world that can make you happy. That statement can be kind of frightening, but you have to look at it positively. Yes, other people can make you feel happy, but you yourself are the one that can make you BE happy.
It’s hard, but it feels so incredibly wonderful to free yourself from that dependency on other people. I’m still working on it. It’s a slow process. But freeing yourself from one negative person at a time feels so good.
My task for you is to find one thing that you can wear, do, see, listen to, say, or sing a day that makes you feel empowered. Maybe your favorite song, your favorite dance, an awesome work-out. For me, it’s wearing red. Sometimes it’s my favorite red flannel, other times bright red leggings, other times something small, like a red bracelet or my red-painted nails. Red is such an empowering color for me and when I wear it, I feel bold. So join me in wearing red, or another color that makes you feel empowered. You are bold, and you deserve to feel that way.

Author: erinlmoynihan

Writer, reader, traveler & activist

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